“This is probably one of the most difficult challenges a parent could face – learning to love the other parent enough to make children first”
A divorce does not end your responsibility as a parent. Both parents must continue their respective parental roles. And children vehemently need the positive interaction of BOTH parents. They must be assured that both parents unconditionally love them despite their relationship ending.
The majority of parents who are dealing with divorce have feelings of isolation, loneliness, depression, guilt, grief and lack of self-confidence. Finances may also be an issue along wit social life, sexual needs and the welfare of the children.
How you cope will mirror how your children cope.
Children need to develop their own lives. They have to balance school, friends and extracurricular activities. A parenting plan must be created that fulfills the best interests of the children.
Asking for help during this trying time is a sign of strength, not weakness. Children quickly are often quite intuitive to the goings-on around them. If there is stress or signs of hardships the children can react in a negatively. We only get one chance to raise our children right, so the best solution is to get help right away, before making irreversible mistakes. Those who seek help are more likely to preemptively avoid mishaps with their children.
My personal experience of divorced, with two small children (4 and 6), in addition to my extensive training and education, has given me invaluable tools and skills to help you through your time of need. For example, the positive approach my children experienced allowed them both to excel in school and now have careers as an attorney and Governmental consultant for the Dept. of Defense.